Sunday, July 26, 2009
Sunday, July 19, 2009
The third visit to my grandmother was not pleasant. She was dying and my father was attending to her along with his sisters. I sat in the living room alone listening to her illness and drinking my one Coke. Until I spotted a small white box by her easy chair. It was filled with quotes. For someone who seemed so angry, resentful and callous obviously read these jewels as she began each day. I discovered her secret.
Did I have different feelings about her in the end? No. she was distant either by design or determination. But it did convince me that this distant and angry woman struggled each day. And, her refuge was in a small white box. Yet, it was like watching someone being thrown a life preserver and they keep reaching and never grasp it even though it is floating right in front of them. You've known people like that, haven't you? So, I thought I would share some favorite quotes of mine in memory of the stranger known as my paternal grandmother.
If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.
-- Katharine Hepburn
People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they're not on your road doesn't mean they've gotten lost.
-- Dalai Lama
You can't be brave if you've only had wonderful things happen to you.
-- Mary Tyler Moore
Everyone has talent. What is rare is the courage to follow the talent to the dark place where it leads.
-- Erica Jong
You never find yourself until you face the truth.
-- Pearl Bailey
It's a Wonderful Life (1946)
Henry Travers (Clarence): Remember George, No man is a failure who has friends.
To Kill a Mockingbird (1962)
Gregory Peck (Atticus Finch): If you just learn a single trick, Scout, you'll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view...Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.
Those who dance are considered insane by those who cannot hear the music.
-- George Carlin
God has given you one face, and you make yourself another.
-- William Shakespeare
If you don't get lost, there's a chance you may never be found.
-- Author Unknown
It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.
-- e.e. cummings
Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
-- Albert Einstein
All of us have moments in our lives that test our courage. Taking children into a house with white carpet is one of them.
-- Erma Bombeck
Carpe Diem (Seize the day)
You can't hold a man down without staying down with him.
-- Booker T. Washington
Quotes from "A River Runs Through It" Norman MacLean
Long ago, when I was a young man, my father said to me, "Norman, you like to write stories." And I said "Yes, I do." Then he said, "Someday, when you're ready you might tell our family story. Only then will you understand what happened and why."
Like many fly fishermen in western Montana where the summer days are almost Arctic in length, I often do not start fishing until the cool of the evening. Then in the Arctic half-light of the canyon, all existence fades to a being with my soul and memories and the sounds of the Big Blackfoot River and a four-count rhythm and the hope that a fish will rise. Eventually, all things merge into one, and a river runs through it. The river was cut by the world's great flood and runs over rocks from the basement of time. On some of those rocks are timeless raindrops. Under the rocks are the words, and some of the words are theirs. I am haunted by waters.
It is those we live with and love and should know who elude us.
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Sunday, July 12, 2009
B A C K G R O U N D
Also, he opens a restaurant on Jefferson Street that serves comfort food where he takes on an active role as owner.
He also rented a condo from a good friend off of Lea avenue in downtown Nashville where they would meet and spend time together.
- July 2nd, Kahzemi buys a gun in the Dave and Busters parking lot. She is depressed and thinks McNair is cheating on her. (I know).
- Kahzemi and McNair are pulled over by the same cop that slapped McNair with a DUI a year or more ago. Kahzemi is booked and waits for bail from McNair. McNair is allowed to leave and take a cab home. (as co-owner of the vehicle, they should have both been booked).
- According to police, McNair had been barhopping on 2nd avenue in the wee hours of Jul 4th. He reportedly went to his condo to sleep.
- Police also stated that a mere hours later, he had taken 2 of his sons fishing at Percy Priest Lake. Did the sons not smell liquor on him? Could they not tell he was drunk? Nothing was out of the ordinary?
- The friend who rents the condo to McNair stopped by to "check on some things" at the pad. He notices nothing out of the ordinary, he sees McNair seated on the couch and assumes he is sleeping. Meanwhile, his girlfriend is on the floor lying in a pool of blood.
- He does what he needs to do at the condo and turns to leave and notices blood on the carpet. He now realizes that McNair isn't asleep. (DUH)
- He immediately calls a friend - NOT 911. 45 minutes to an hour later, they call 911.
- Then the police come in and begin investigating and people start milling around wondering what is going on.
- the NPD question neighbors and no one heard a gunshot, shouting, screaming, etc. Nothing.
- McNair is shot in the right temple, left temple and twice in the chest. Kahzemi has a reported self-inflicted gunshot wound to her right temple.
- The case is ruled murder/suicide.
- I don't believe he took his sons fishing. I think that is a feeble attempt at a "feel good" story about McNair. Besides, wouldn't the sons mention his drunkeness to their mother? I'm just saying...
- Michelle McNair stated she hasn't heard from Steve in "days". She is currently living in their mansion in Green Hills. The sons (except for 1 I think) are underage. Wouldn't McNair need to call his kids or come by the house to get them? Wouldn't someone mention this to the Mom? I'm just sayin'.....
- His "Gridiron 9" restaurant was opened just a couple of weeks ago to the public. She still hasn't heard from Steve in days? The kids didn't go to the opening? hmmmmm.
- The friend that rented the condo comes by to check on things. Okay, then you discover that you're in the middle of a homicide setting. You call a friend? My personal opinion is you do if you need help cleaning up drug paraphenalia and other incriminating evidence. That should take about 45 minutes to an hour.
- You're the best friend of Steve McNair. You call 911 after an hour's delay and you don't know the address of where you are, although you own the property?
- McNair is shot in the left temple, then the right temple and twice in the chest. A twenty year old girl who is distraught is going to shoot her cheating boyfriend in that fashion? I don't think so. I could accept it if it were the shots in the chest OR a shot to the head. NOT execution style. Seems to me that this has the markings of a gang/mob murder.
- Seems to me that McNair was worth more dead than alive. Who could stand to gain from this? His "BFF?" business partners of the restaurant? who knows? Me thinks the cops are taking a "hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil" approach. Whether the restaurant is legit or a front for something else, it's going to be a goldmine. The target audience is true blue.
- Don't worry; the newscasters and the police have stated that we should remember the "good Steve McNair." And, people did just that.
It's a damn shame.
Sunday, July 05, 2009
He was the "go-to" guy; whether he was dispensing advice for new players or running a play to win the game in the final seconds of the game...
He seemed perfect in every way. His wife is beautiful, he has 4 sons who all seem to be very athletic and will most likely follow in his footsteps.
And, he had a girlfriend. This isn't the first time, I'm sure. The news of his death has been difficult for Nashville's citizens because of the perfect persona they know on the field and off.
In the movies, the good guys always wear white. The difference between black and white isn't hard to distinguish, he was a good guy. However, I can see where those closest to him could see the difference between black and white becoming a muddled gray.
Rest in Peace, Steve, #9.
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Thursday, July 02, 2009
* Any conversation can suddenly turn into a round of "Charades".
* A "good hair day" is when you realize you have some left.
* You tell your kid to "clean up the floor" and they just get the broom out and start sweeping.
* You make a grocery list so you won't forget anything, and then forget where you put the list. * (On a REALLY bad day you also forget where the grocery store is!)
* You bathe the lawn, fertilize the dog, and brush the kids.
* You use the smoke detector to tell you when dinner is done.
* You try to type and discover that you've invented a whole new language.
* You keep sunscreen by every door.
* Getting some fresh air means sitting near an open shady window.
* You have a temperature and moisture-controlled room for keeping your large quantity of meds.
* You're the only one who believes you're THAT sick.
* You sit in the car for three hours wondering what you needed to do, not even sure where you are.
* Someone asks you what vasculitis is and you've forgotten.
* It takes so long to get one project done, because in the meantime you've been distracted by at least a million other things.
* You put the ice cream in the cupboard (and then wonder why somebody else did something THAT stupid).
* You know every doctor, nurse, within 50 miles of your home - AND you've financed most of their vacations.
* The pharmacist sees you coming down the aisle and doesn't even have to ask your name.
* You decide to buy stock in pharmaceutical companies (because you buy their products so much they ought to make lots of money) but you can't afford to invest (for the same reason).
Take my constricted blood vessels please! (Bah-dump-bump)**************************************************************************
Parkinson Disease Humor
is that dyskinesia or are you just glad to see me?" ....."I think she likes me; she's been staring at me all evening!" ......"we take drugs pretty seriously at our house".. ....."hey, looks like somebody got their prescription filled recently!" ........and I said to her, "As long as you're feeling dyskinetic, how 'bout getting started on that butter-churning"? ..........so I asked him, "Why don't we go to your place and you can show me all those child-proof containers you're always talking about?"***************************************************************************
Favorite T-Shirts about PD:
"I have Parkinson's not cooties"
"Levadopa, Breakfast of Champions"
Favorite Rheumatoid Arthritis T-Shirts:
"My immune system attacks itself, what does yours do?"Ya gotta laugh, right? Time for more steroids.
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